What if I'm not confused. I'm just scared to admit the truth?

Stop Calling it Confusion: The Fear That Keeps You Stuck (and how to face it)

It’s not confusion.

It’s clarity you’re scared to act on.

I used to think I was unsure.

That I just needed more time.

That, with enough self-work, patience, and understanding, things would magically shift.

They didn’t.

Because I wasn’t confused.

The worst part was that I knew.

I always knew.

Call it gut instinct, inner knowing, resignation.

But I knew.

I just didn’t want to face what that knowing would require me to do.

Changes.

If you’re sitting in the waiting room of your own life, stuck, heavy, going round in circles, let me offer this:

3 SIGNS IT’S NOT CONFUSION. IT’S FEAR OF CONSEQUENCES.

1. YOU’VE ASKED THE SAME QUESTION 100 DIFFERENT WAYS.

You’re not looking for an answer. You’re searching for permission. You know the truth, but you want someone else to carry the responsibility of saying it out loud.

2. YOU KEEP HOPING FOR A SIGN…BUT DREAD WHAT IT MIGHT TELL YOU.

You check social media, ask mutual friends, replay the last conversations, try to read between the lines, research every possible outcome and option apart from the only option that you already know to be the only viable solution.

Deep down, you already have your answer.

You’re just scared to stop searching.

3. YOU IMAGINE EVERY FUTURE EXCEPT THE ONE WHERE YOU CHOOSE YOURSELF.

You can see yourself staying, settling, sacrificing.

But you’ve cut off the vision where you walk away, heal, build something better because that version of you feels too powerful, too unfamiliar, too free.

A QUOTE TO LEAVE YOU WITH:

“I know where I'm going and I know the truth and I don't have to be what you want me to be. I'm free to be what I want.”

Muhammad Ali

This week, I’m revisiting the moments I confused being stuck for being safe, and I’m writing for the part of you that already knows.

On my retreats, people often come because they are facing decisions in their lives. They need help, community, support, and space to be able to try on their deep inner truths.

If you’re ready to leave the waiting room, my book Unapologetic was written for you….(click here to order)

....So are my next two retreats.

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